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Fear – Face it and Enjoy the Rewards

By Catherine Rocheleau on Aug 25 2011 • Filed under Business

Succeed in business; overcome your fears (Photo: Justyna Furmanczyk)Each day when you are faced with new opportunities you make decisions to either move forward or stay where you are. This decision is frequently an easy one because the risk of moving forward is less than the benefit gained. At other times, you are faced with decisions that are much harder to make. They require you to take a greater risk and/or venture into unknown territory. These decisions can be very difficult to make. There are also many factors that come into play that can add to the complexity of the decision and the eventual outcome.

Whenever you make a decision to make a change from your routine, your Gremlin (that little voice that sits on your shoulder and feeds your mind with negative self-talk) will start to talk non-stop to try to get you to stop. According to Mel Robbins in Success Magazine, our brain operates in two modes: danger mode or automatic. The Gremlin is loud and clear and tries to stop us from making a change when we are not in automatic mode.

Fear is one of the major roadblocks you may face when deciding to make a change that will take you outside your comfort zone. You many have a fear of failure, a fear of success, or fear of the unknown but the result is the same; if you listen to your Gremlin you will not take the next step in the process.

Dr. Phil McGraw had this to say about fear, “Fear can be rational or irrational; understand that YOU have control of your fear. Be aware of your self-talk; we respond to what we say to ourselves proportionately. Be willing to challenge your fears.”

“When you face your fear…it empowers us to overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams.” ~Les Brown

Fear knows no boundaries. It affects the successful and motivated and the average person in much the same way. The only difference is how each person responds to their Gremlin. If they quiet the Gremlin and excite their Cheerleader, then they make the decision to move forward and reap the benefits.

When I work with my clients, it is not uncommon for us to address individual fears that are holding them back from achieving their brilliance. Each person faces different obstacles, and reacts to the challenges differently. Together we identify ways to stay focused on the big picture and deal with the Gremlin.

Taking steps to quiet your Gremlin include:

  • Counter your Gremlin’s voice with a positive, rational statement that is exactly the opposite; e.g., Replace "I’m a failure" with "I now know what steps to avoid to reach my goal."
  • Write down the positive counter statements and rehearse them so they become automatic thoughts.
  • Post your goals (ideally in a pictorial form) where you can see them daily. When you see your goals frequently you will stay focused on the goal and it will appear more real, thus silencing your Gremlin.
  • Regular exercise helps stimulate endorphins (the feel-good hormones). Endorphins help reduce stress and negative self-talk.
  • Discuss your fear or challenge with a Coach or Mastermind team. When you get external input, the fear is reduced and rational thoughts and potential solutions replace the Gremlin’s voice.

“When you face your fear, most of the time you will discover that it was not really such a big threat after all. We all need some form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation: it empowers us to overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams.” ~Les Brown


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