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Is Entrepreneurship Compatible with a Happy Marriage?

By Dr. Patty Ann Tublin on Jun 13 2011 • Filed under Business

Is being an entrepreneur compatible with a happy marraige? (Photo)

Stephen Covey in his award winning book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, speaks about his belief that all success in life begins with relationships. Entrepreneurial women know life’s true meaning and purpose can, in fact, only be found in relationships. We are all on a lifetime journey where success is ultimately defined by, and anchored within, our relationships.

It is an oxymoron to think of someone having found true success in the absence of meaningful relationships. As a relationship expert who has worked with entrepreneurial women for decades, I assure you that people who have financial successful often find it rings hollow if they do not have other people to share in their success. Think about it: what good is all the money in the world if you do not have anyone to share it with?

As entrepreneurial women, we not only seek but also demand quality relationships within our lives. It is my sincere belief the female entrepreneurial spirit was borne out of our desire to create life/balance for ourselves and the ones we love. The expression “life/balance” seems redundant – the only way to live a purposeful life is in harmony and balance. As women, we seamlessly transition between the many different roles we have: i.e., entrepreneurial woman, wife, mother, daughter, sister, etc, to name just a few.

For entrepreneurial women, the secret to happiness is not defined by the various roles we have but by successfully balancing them so we find individual happiness and fulfillment within each of them. Happiness and success in one area of our lives do not have to come at the expense of happiness and success in other areas of our lives. The false choice between success in our careers vs. happiness in our relationships (which often implies our marriages and family life) personifies the traditional corporate model women around the world are resoundingly rejecting, and this rejection is profoundly true for entrepreneurial women who’ve created a life of entrepreneurial success and happiness within our marriages and interpersonal relationships!

People who live a balanced life often speak of life having meaning and purpose. However, balance hardly ever means equal. Rather, balance is found in spending the appropriate amount of time and energy pursuing one role in our life without sacrificing the quality and commitment we have to the our other roles. Our lives cannot be balanced, however, if our spouse/significant other does not support our entrepreneurial efforts. My goal has been to show women how they can have it all – a thriving, profitable business, a supportive romantic relationship and healthy interpersonal relationships.

How to Predict Whether Your Marriage can Survive Your Business

Below are five key questions you must first ask yourself that will help you predict the compatibility between entrepreneurship and your marriage.

  1. Are you and your partner in a true partnership? Are you on the same team – sharing a common vision, purpose and goal for your life together?
  2. Do you and your partner share a mindset which creates a successful business and true partnership? Or does your partner’s mindset (or maybe even your own ) sabotage your entrepreneurial success?
  3. Are your financial, emotional and spiritual wants and needs similar enough to withstand the unpredictability entrepreneurship will bring into your lives?
  4. Is your partner cognizant of the sacrifices you may have to endure to make your business succeed, especially when your entrepreneurial business is in the start-up phase? These sacrifices include the time, resources and energy any start-up business requires before it makes even one dollar of profit.
  5. Is your communication within your relationship open and honest? You and your partner will need effective communication skills if you want your partner’s emotional support for your business.

In upcoming articles I am going to discuss, in detail, each of the above questions. The answers to these questions will collectively provide entrepreneurial women with all the relationship tools you will need for success in business and your marriage or other intimate relationship.


See also: Entrepreneurship and Marriage – a True Partnership? (This post takes a closer look at Question 1, above.)


5 Comments

  1. As the adage says: charity begins at home. No one get to the top without the help of others. The support of our spouses/ families are iminent to have a smooth sail in business. It is very important to live a balanced life in order to have a successful career. Thanks Ajoke Akinola CEO Pleasant Jay Events

  2. This is such an important topic dt disturbs a lot of succesful women. Am glad ds article did justice to it. There just has to b a balance btw work/family.this lies wt the woman,so dt her partner doesn’t feel insecured. Tnkss a lot! Bisi Padonu, CEO BusyBee Events!

  3. I must comment on this mainly because I have my own business and a successful marriage of 17 years…it is possible to have a successful marriage with your own business as long as you:
    1) Put as much work in your marriage as you do your business
    2) Take time to be with your partner…take walks, go out to dinner, a movie…it is important to also put time into your marriage and make dates…that always works for my husband and I
    3) Listen with an open mind…even though your partner may not be totally involved in your business, let them give you some input on some business-related ideas you have…they may be pretty good!
    4) And, again, your marriage will be successful as long as you also put time into it…because just like a business, nothing just “happens” you need to put “time” into it…
    5) Be patient…if your partner has another idea of what you should be doing, be open with your communition –listen, but make sure you get to communicate your thoughts…and that they are listened to.

    Good luck to everyone…both are a challenge, but if you work hard at them you will be successful!!!
    Thanks, Diane Castro, CEO Young at Heart Communications, LLC and married for 17 years to a great guy!!!

    I think that is all I have to add for now…

  4. This is a good way for entrepreneur women to gauge where they are in their business and personal lives/relationships. The sacrifice it takes and the balance commitment can be difficult. It takes a “real” man to be able to handle that. I applaud the secure men out there who fully support our vision, dream and goals!!!

  5. Great article! I look forward to seeing more from you on this subject!

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