Thursday, December 5th, 2019

Body Language Secrets of Confident Business Women

By Narges Nirumvala on Feb 13 2011 • Filed under The Power Communicator

What does your body language say about you?

You walk into a room full of people you’ve never met before. Someone hands you a ‘Hello my name is’ badge and away you go. As you walk around the room deciding who to speak to first, you notice people looking at you. What do they think when they see you?

If only you could read minds it would be so much easier! When people meet you for the first time do you make a positive first impression? Do people think, “Wow, that’s a confident woman”?

People are making assumptions about who you are and what you do before you’ve said a single word. Of course they notice your hair, make-up and the way you dress. In addition to that you are sending out, like radar, subtle non-verbal cues through your body language.

Here are five ways to send out the right signals.

1. Eye Contact

Making eye contact across a crowded room isn’t just reserved for romantic novels. In any business situation the ability to make eye contact is essential to a strong business presence. When you make eye contact you show that you are listening to that person and that you care about what they have to say, even if you don’t agree with it (particularly if you don’t agree with it). Eye contact is a show of strength and confidence.

2. Smile

People don’t think of smiling as body language. But your face is part of your body isn’t it? You communicate your passion for what you do and your joy for life through your smile. All other things being equal, would you rather do business with someone who looks miserable or happy? Make sure the first thing they see about you is a big, ostentatious smile. You love who you are and it shows!

3. Posture

Remember when your mother used to tell you to sit up straight? Well, she was right. Slouching, scrunching and leaning are going to send out all the wrong signals. So stand up straight with your shoulders back and head up. You’re not an overworked cave dweller; you’re a powerful, confident business woman.

4. Hand Shake

A firm confident hand shake is one of the first things people will notice about you when they finally do speak with you. Limp wristed women (and men) don’t make the best first impression. If you do have a weak hand shake then grab hold of your significant other and practise, practise, practise! A firm hand shake says ‘I know who I am and I’m happy to meet you.’

5. Fidgeting

Powerful business women don’t fidget. Fidgeting could be playing with your hair, picking at your nails, rubbing your face or any other nervous action. It makes you look bored and weak. Often fidgeting is unconscious, so you may need to ask someone close to you to observe you and take action accordingly. If you need to do something to keep you occupied in a particularly dull meeting, then why not take notes, or ask a question. If you’re bored at a networking event, then treat yourself to a glass or wine or excuse yourself and walk up to someone new.

You are a successful, powerful woman and it should ooze out of every pore. Understanding the nuances of good body language is one way that you can control other people’s perceptions of you. So stand up straight, make good eye contact, smile, shake hands firmly and stop fidgeting!


25 Comments

  1. Hi Narges,A very impressive and an informative article,pls do post some more in the near future.Best of luck.

    Shermeen Jal
    Muscat,Sultanate Of Oman.

  2. Hi Narges,

    You have a great gift for writing Narges and I agree with everything in this article. Being in the industry I am in, all 5 points are very important in relationships with not only colleagues but clients too. I can say I have a issues with fidgeting and will now try and control it to the best of my ability. You should seriously consider coming and doing a small talk for our company. I think it would benefit us all very much. 🙂 Can’t wait to read more!

  3. Hi Nargis!
    I live in Vancouver and we have never met. I just read your wonderful article and thought to write and say hello! I teach at UBC in the medical school and also teach yoga, dance and martial arts–in which i discuss body language issues in a similar way. Hope to connect with you: fms@ece.ubc.ca

    Smiles
    farah

  4. THIS IS JUST A SUGGESTION – Why simply stop at the local Youth – when there is soon to be a World Zoroastrian Youth Congress 2011 in Vancouver? I am sure a lot of them would benefit from such a talk – besides it is always good to give the kids a chance at learning something other than the usual “Who am I? And where did I come from?” stuff. If we are intent on grooming our Youth for the future, a talk such as yours would indeed be of some merit, I feel. Good Luck and God Bless!

  5. Hi,
    Very interesting article and useful tips!
    I visited your web site too!
    Your mom forwarded the link to me.
    I knew you when you were 9!
    Good Luck.

  6. Hi Narges: Your mom forwarded the article on body language on to me. I read it and felt it contained great pointers for youth who are on their way to become powerful people in business–the movers and shakers of the future. Would you be interested in making a presentation to the Zoroastrian Youth of BC? This group could really benefit from your experience. If you agree, I can pass your name on to them for consideration. Thanks, and keep up the good work.

    Sincerely,

    Kashmira Suraliwalla
    ZSBC Board of Directors

  7. Good insights! For me, posture and handshakes are definitely two of the things I notice first when meeting someone for the first time.

  8. Great article! I like the “overworked cave dweller” line. How true it is! 🙂

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